Review of VSSL — Jim Wolfe's Confidence Formula
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Have you ever held yourself back from doing something you wanted to do because you were afraid of what other people might think?
Do you ever worry that if you make a mistake everyone will see it and judge you for it?
Or, have you ever done something you didn’t want to do at all just to please someone else?
Do you ever think there might be something fundamentally wrong with you and you don’t know what it is?
Or, have you ever felt like something is missing in your life?
…Like once you get a new car, get a degree, get a promotion, get into a relationship, or win a championship that THEN you’ll be “good enough?”
Well, if you answered “yes” to any of the questions above, I can definitely relate…
I even carried around a dull pain in my gut every day for years that I actually thought was normal…until I got rid of it.
And if you’re like me, I didn’t show it to anyone. I smiled through the pain.
I’ll share more about my story with you in just a minute…
However, first, did you know that the #1 BIGGEST regret people have at the end of their lives is that they lived the way everyone else thought they should instead of the way they really wanted to live?
Well, what if you felt completely free to live the way you want instead of living in constant fear of judgment?
Like you want people to support what you’re doing, but you don’t need their approval…
What if you were able to say what you mean without putting anyone down or worrying about being attacked?
What would be different about your life?
Wouldn’t it be amazing to stop feeling like there might be something wrong with you or that something is missing in your life?
Or that you’re doing something wrong and everyone can see it but you?
Or that you aren’t “good enough” yet?
How awesome would it be if you truly stopped worrying so much about what other people think about you and you felt completely comfortable out in the world?
How great would it be if you could make yourself feel good any time you want without needing any particular thing to happen or anyone else to come along and make you feel better?
What would it mean for you if you could truly accept yourself and the world around you and still continue to get better?
Well, you absolutely can live the way you want, say what you want, feel like nothing is missing, and feel that nothing is wrong with you. Without ignoring reality, lying to yourself, or killing your motivation to improve yourself and the world.
And, ironically, you achieve MORE when you live this way because you’re be able to take more risks, make more mistakes, and learn from them more quickly.
The best part is that it feels better every step of the way…
The good news is that both of those obstacles have the same solution and I’m going to tell you all about it in just a minute…
The first obstacle we must overcome is that we have a built-in need to “fit in…”
We desperately want to be part of the “in-groups” we identify with.
In fact, researchers at the University of Michigan have discovered that “social rejection” fires off the same neurons in our brains as being physically punched in the face…
The problem is that our completely normal, natural drive to seek approval and be part of a group can sometimes keep you from doing what makes you happy.
It can stop you from being yourself and rob you of living a full life.
It can make you feel trapped.
It can even make you feel physical pain and experience health problems.
Over time, it can lead to deep regret and sadness at the end of your life…
The great news is that you can learn to give yourself all the approval you’ll ever need, without lying to yourself or ignoring reality, even if you’ve been struggling with this for decades…
…and then you can take that skill and start providing opportunities for other people to “fit in” with YOU.
How good would you feel if not only did you “fit in” to a social group that is perfect for you, you’re one of the LEADERS of that group…
…And you’re so secure and comfortable with yourself that you can give a lot of other people the approval they are so desperately seeking and eventually teach them to approve of themselves too?
Imagine how free you feel when you truly never need anyone else’s approval yet you get even MORE support from the exact people who are supposed to be in your life.
Imagine the kind of life you live.
Imagine what you accomplish and how well people treat you.
Imagine how good you’ll feel about yourself and the life you lived when you’re 86 years old.
And imagine how fulfilled you feel when you have such an overflowing cup that you can be extremely giving and help others without ever hurting yourself…
Now, this is not one of those “everyone gets a medal for participating,” “pie-in-the-sky,” “fake positivity,” “self-esteem movement” kind of ideas…
Which takes us nicely to obstacle #2:
The second obstacle we must overcome is trying to EARN self-worth.
The truth is that self-worth cannot be earned.
Luckily, feeling good about yourself in a real way consistently despite your imperfections and shortcomings is a skill you can learn.
And you can do it without turning into an arrogant jerk, pretending not to care, or ignoring all the ways you could improve yourself.
In fact, according to a University of Wisconsin study, you actually improve MORE when you focus on what you’re doing right. So don’t worry about that.
Not only does learning this skill clearly benefit you every single day of your life, it also has a huge positive impact on everyone around you.
Yet, unfortunately, most people NEVER learn this critical skill no matter how “successful” or “saintly” they are…
The problem is that basing your self-worth on “success” or anything else external to you instead of learning this skill is not a winning strategy because it will never be enough.
While true confidence makes you more successful, success doesn’t necessarily make you more self-assured.
In fact, lots of celebrities, wealthy people, popular people, people who post happy photos of their “perfect” relationship on social media, and even so-called “gurus” lack the most basic foundation of genuine confidence…
…in other words, they appear “successful” to the world but still don’t like themselves very much.
Maybe you can relate…I was the exact same way before I learned what I’m about to share with you today.
So if you struggle with this stuff, you’re definitely not alone.
The sad fact is that most people struggle with this no matter what it looks like on the outside.
And why don’t these amazing people see their own value?
Because they’re trying to EARN it when that’s actually impossible.
See, achievements, new levels of fame, pay increases, helping people, and buying nice things can make you feel good about yourself for a while, but like any drug, the feeling fades away quickly and then you need more just to feel normal.
And, if you have deep regrets over your past decisions and actions, they can weigh you down for years even though you can’t change the past. This kind of regret can actually prevent you from growing and correcting your past mistakes so you don’t repeat them in the future.
If you believe there is something fundamentally wrong with you as a person, it destroys your self-worth no matter what you do. And this level of shame tries to convince you that you are a fundamentally unworthy person even though that’s not true…
…Maybe someone did something to you or something happened to you and you interpreted it as a message that you’re not worthy of respect.
…Maybe someone BLAMED you for something and you internalized it.
…Maybe someone told you that you were a certain way a long time ago and you just kept believing them instead of telling your own more accurate story.
Do You Have a “Dislike Button” in Your Head?
Sometimes pain from past social rejection can create a “self-fulfilling prophecy loop” of more rejection and more pain:
You expect or suspect that you’ll be rejected, so you express your fear through your body language, the other person picks up on it and gets uncomfortable, they “reject” you because they don’t feel comfortable, then you feel “rejected” again and confirm your beliefs about yourself…
The sad fact is that, most of the time, we hold ourselves back.
And, if you don’t like yourself very much because of the way you look, you can get fit, have corrective surgeries, wear clothes that make you look better, etc…
Yet, even when you do those things, you’ll never look perfect.
The fact of the matter is that no matter what you do, you’ll never be perfect. So, if you feel the need to be perfect, you’ll never ever feel like you’re good enough.
You’ll never meet that impossible standard.
And, if your standard is merely to be “the best” in order to feel good about yourself, someone better than you in one way or another will always come along at some point and then you’ll fall right back down into the dark pit of miserable self-loathing.
Comparison Leads to More Self-Loathing
You might even end up putting other people down, judging them harshly, or gossiping about them just to feel a little better about yourself – and then regret it later and feel even worse abut yourself.
And, if you have to feel like you’re “better” than other people to feel good about yourself, you can only feel comfortable around people you think are worse than you, meaning that…
…the people you truly want to surround yourself with, the people you’re most attracted to, the people with the best business opportunities for you, and the people who can help you grow the most will always be out of your reach.
You’re stuck right where you are.
Also, if you don’t think you deserve to feel good about yourself for one reason or another, people will avoid you and hold back their validation from you to match your own self-appraisal, leaving you struggling for any source of feeling good you can find every day of your life.
External Validation Hamster Wheel
Some turn to food…or alcohol…or drugs…or sex…or “working hard”…or sports…or people-pleasing…or achievements…or whatever. There are a million ways to numb the pain instead of solving the root cause.
Yet, the fact of the matter is that you deserve to feel good about yourself just as much as anyone else.
Yes, even if you’ve made “horrible” mistakes, you have some kind of “flaw,” or you think maybe you’re not a “good” person.
The truth is that nobody has ever done enough or behaved well enough to “earn it” in human history.
That’s why unconditional self-acceptance is the foundation of ultimate success, happiness, fulfillment, and treating everyone better than you have.
And if you’re worried that it will make you arrogant or lazy; it won’t.
You’ll actually value other people MORE than you do now and experience MORE success.
We’ll talk about why in a minute…
However, if you don’t have this foundation in place, people around you suffer; not just you.
So the key is to accept yourself exactly as you are right now in this moment while you ALSO continue to strive and grow.
Because the truth is that genuine self-worth cannot be earned; you can only give it to yourself.
That’s why it’s called self-worth.
The best part is that you can validate yourself as much as you want any time you want for any reason you want or for no reason at all.
And that’s the only way to feel good about yourself consistently because everything else is subject to the changing whims of the external world.
And again, ironically, you actually achieve MORE when you have a solid foundation of self-worth because you stop sabotaging yourself when your validation as a person isn’t on the line anymore.
You go higher and accomplish more.
And you feel good every step of the way instead of suffering and struggling for a few drops of external validation here and there.
You’re kinder to everyone you care about and even those you don’t. You never feel the need to judge anyone harshly.
People want to be around you more because you have more to share and they know they won’t be judged.
Potential lovers are more attracted to you and stay attracted to you longer.
And it takes less energy to be with you because nobody ever feels the need to try to make you feel better about yourself…
…Which means even more opportunities come your way in addition to how much better you feel inside every single day.
So what’s the solution that allows us to break through the 2 main obstacles (and a few other smaller ones) into FREEDOM?
How do you feel good about yourself in a real way without turning into a cocky, arrogant jerk, lying to yourself, ignoring reality, or killing your motivation?
What’t the solution to all of this?
What’s the secret to being confident without being cocky?
See, if, like most people, you’re worried about becoming “cocky” or “arrogant” if you start liking yourself more, you’re just assuming that valuing yourself more means valuing other people less.
However, once you stop comparing yourself to others, you can start thinking that you’re as awesome as you want without putting anyone else down or competing with them.
In fact, your new level of self-belief and real confidence will LIFT THEM UP too.
You’re not better or worse than anyone else; you’re just awesome.
That’s the ultimate attitude we want to develop.
The truth is that there’s actually an infinite amount of value in the world, so claiming as much as you want for yourself doesn’t take ANY away from anyone else.
You don’t have to compete for it anymore.
From this day forward you just give it to yourself and share it with the world.
Now you can relax, be who you really are deep down, and live the life you really want to live because you don’t NEED approval from other people.
That’s not fake confidence; it’s a whole new way of life.
And, when your cup is overflowing and you don’t need as much external validation, you have so much more you can share with the world.
Your real value in the real world goes up.
It’s the best thing for everyone; not just you.
So how do you ACTUALLY start validating yourself in a real way without lying to yourself?
That’s what we cover inside The Validation Switch Program:
*This program is NOT a cure for anxiety caused by traumatic experiences.
Imagine feeling genuinely good about yourself regardless of your current circumstances…
…When you finish The Validation Switch program, you know exactly what it means to live through that deeply secure frame at all times, exactly how to do it, and exactly how it looks when you interact with the world around you.
Most importantly, you feel genuinely good about yourself in a real way.
Even if you feel pretty confident already, this program has benefits.
What’s amazing is that living through a secure frame makes success in every area of your life easier.
It’s ironic because you NEED external success less, but you get MORE.
People want to be around you and sometimes even want to give you things or do things for you.
You’re much more resilient to obstacles along your path.
You feel internally strong.
For me, it was something I had NEVER experienced before in my life:
If we haven’t met yet, my name is Jim Wolfe and I probably should have been truly confident all my life.
I’ve always enjoyed public speaking, which many people fear more than death…
I’ve never really had a problem meeting people or making friends. In fact, I was paid to meet people for a living before I ever learned what I’m sharing with you today.
I was a straight-A student growing up, a member of student government in college, president of my fraternity, and pretty good at sports.
I’m not a bad-looking guy.
A few years ago, I had the perfect job for me and was with the exact woman I wanted to be with.
You could even say I was confident in many areas of my life.
And yet, deep down, something was always MISSING.
At one point I even ended up getting an extremely painful ulcer from the way I constantly felt anxiety in my stomach…
And at the time I had no idea what it was, but it got so bad and so painful that I finally decided I would do whatever it takes to figure it out and see if I could fix it.
I even got a master’s degree related to my search for a solution.
And thanks to that long, difficult process I found out what I was missing.
It’s painful to admit, but I discovered that I lacked the most basic foundation, the CORE, of genuine confidence.
Some people call what I was missing self-worth, self-esteem, or self-love.
Call it whatever you want.
The point is that no matter what I did I never felt GOOD ENOUGH.
The most beautiful, awesome woman I know has the same problem.
I can tell that almost every celebrity, sports star, politician, and everyone else we tend to look up to suffers from it even if it appears that they don’t.
I see this problem everywhere I go and every time I look at social media.
So again, if you struggle with it too, you’re definitely not alone.
And today’s society doesn’t make it easy.
It was incredibly difficult for me to get to this point, yet now, thanks to everything we cover in detail inside The Validation Switch program, I don’t feel like anything is missing or that anything is wrong with me…
…for the first time in my life.
I switched my DEFAULT SETTING from “anxiety all the time” to deep serenity almost all the time.
I truly feel like I’m good enough exactly as I am right now, imperfections and all. I’m able to be a good man on my own terms and it feels amazing to be so internally strong.
I’m much less affected by both positive and negative comments from other people (unless I care about them, trust them, and can benefit from their perspective).
When I make a mistake, I react better and learn from it faster because I don’t throw a huge “shame bomb” about my general personality into the situation anymore.
I don’t expect myself to be perfect, so I’m able to try more things and accomplish more under pressure.
I worry less about what anyone thinks about me.
And I want all of that for you too…
So now that I figured out exactly what I was missing and built my own genuine confidence from the “ground” up, I want to share what I learned with you in a format that makes your path shorter and easier.
When I first learned what I’m about to share with you inside The Validation Switch program, it was like a “switch” was flipped inside my mind.
It’s a totally new way of looking at the world and everything you do.
It’s a completely different lifestyle.
One you can start living right now…
It’s so rare to find a truly secure person that your presence provides a good example for others, perhaps the first example of real confidence they’ve ever experienced.
Your family and friends start to admire you and look to you for strength and guidance. They all want to know your secret.
And people want to be around you more.
Imagine what it would be like if:
WARNING: This is not some kind of “magic pill…” There’s no such thing. You have to TAKE ACTION and apply what we cover in your real life to experience the full effect.
However, we have made it as easy as possible for you.
This program is my top-level offering about the foundation of real, lasting confidence that gives you the freedom to be the person you were meant to be.
It’s at the very core of my mission to help 100,000 people increase their self-worth…
…Because it’s the ONE THING I would give everyone on Earth if I could.
My top clients have been telling me that their breakthroughs and results from the program have been worth much more than that to them and that I should consider charging more.
The mindset shift you’re about to experience and learning how to apply it in specific situations has been literally priceless to me in my life.
But I won’t charge you even half that much.
Why am I charging so little if this System is so powerful?
Because I want you to be able to take action and make this investment in yourself.
And because I GENUINELY want 100,000 people to experience a new level of self-worth.
Then why am I charging anything at all?
Because research shows that if you pay a little something for it, you’ll value it more, you’ll take it more seriously, and you’ll be much more likely to go through the program and get the benefits from doing it.
And that’s what I want for you: REAL RESULTS in your REAL LIFE…
…that have a PERMANENTLY positive effect on you.
I’m not interested in “motivating” you for a day or two and then having you go back to your “normal” life after that.
I want to help you make a fundamental shift in the way you experience your life every day from now on.
And, of course, it helps me cover the cost of maintaining the program website and other costs.
And of course, The Validation Switch comes with my iron-clad 60-day guarantee:
Try The Validation Switch system for a full 60 days risk-free.
If you don’t feel an immediate and unwavering shift in how you feel about yourself, if you don’t start experiencing life differently, or if you’re not satisfied in any way, please ask for a refund and we will honor your request with absolutely no hassles and no questions asked. And, we’ll remain friends.
I stand behind this program 110% and I care about your RESULTS.
You’ve seen what some of my top clients have said and my iron-clad guarantee. And, when you order, it’s totally secure.
So there’s nothing holding you back.
Don’t wait until you’re sitting in a rocking chair at the end of your life regretting the way you lived…
Don’t waste another minute suffering in silence…
Take advantage of this discounted offer while you still can: Join us inside The Validation Switch and start living like the truly powerful person you really are deep down right now. You’ll never look back.
See you on the inside! =)
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